The Lovers Birth Card

One card in both places

As a single birth card, The Lovers describes someone for whom relationships, and decisions about what matters, sit at the centre of life. People with this card often learn most about themselves through the people they choose and the choices they make about love, work and belief. It is the card of union, values and meaningful choice.

Where it asks more of you

With no second card to pull against, the card's own shadow matters more: indecision, depending on a partner's approval, choosing to please rather than to stay true to your values. The work is to choose from what you value, not from fear of losing someone.

Sitting with it

Think of a choice that changed the shape of your life. Which value made it for you? This card suggests your relationships are both a mirror and a school, and that the union that matters most may be the one between what you want and what you believe.

Questions to sit with

• Which of your values would you never trade for approval?
• Where are you waiting for someone else to choose for you?
• Which partnership, of any kind, brings out your best?

Who lands here

The first birth date since 1900 that adds up to The Lovers is December 31, 1916. Every year since has some dates that do. It is most common for people born in the 1940s to the 2010s. Among everyone born from 1950 to 2009, about 11.1% have it. Dates that give it include January 13, 1945; May 5, 1985; and September 7, 2015.

The cards on their own

• The Lovers (6)

  A choice that tells you who you are.

Other cards whose numbers add down to 6, like your Soul card: The Devil (15). Greer calls any such card a hidden factor: part of the same family as your birth cards, and easier to overlook.